Most of us consider ourselves to be a people pleaser. We prioritize everyone else’s happiness over ours and hesitate on saying no to people. We try our best to do what the society asks us to do to fit in the societal norms and are too careful about everything. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what we should do or shouldn’t do. Some even have the audacity to question our life decisions we make for ourselves.
But if you aren’t like any of that, kudos to you! People who don’t feel the need to explain themselves to everyone are certainly the best and you’re fortunate enough to have escaped the bullshit people tend to put you through.
We need to ask ourselves that why we feel the need to explain ourselves every time? And why should we? Our life is our business and why should we let anyone interfere let alone question it and the decisions we make for it? If you do, it’s time you stop. Here are some of the many things you don’t owe anyone an explanation for.
- You don’t owe people an explanation about your life decisions
No one has the right to ask you what/how/why you decided on doing something that was against the opinions of other. It’s your life and you’re responsible for whatever you do with it, not the people who feel inclined to throw in their unnecessary opinions every time they feel like.
- If you don’t agree with someone’s stance on something, you don’t owe them validation
Validation comes in a lot of forms. It can be an open agreement, silence or maybe just going with the flow. But if you feel your beliefs, (especially if they are your personal beliefs) are being threatened by what the third party is saying, you have no obligation to just smile and nod. Even if it’s an elder, you don’t just agree with what they say just because that will make things easier. If something goes against what you believe in, you say it out loud and you don’t stop until you have made your point crystal clear.
- You don’t owe a ‘yes’ to everything people say
Whenever there are compelling reasons to say “no”, you go with that. Successful people have mastered the art of saying “no” where it benefits them or when they feel it’s not a priority. You need to see your comfort, your happiness first before agreeing to anything that might bring uneasiness in the future to you.
- You don’t owe an explanation about your sexuality and your sex life
Whether you’re gay, straight, asexual, and pansexual or whatever category you fall into, you don’t need to explain why or how you became one. Or why you chose to go that way. These two things are your private business and should remain that way. Similarly, you don’t owe an explanation to people about your sex life. Who you sleep with or don’t sleep with is solely your decision and you’re welcoming no opinions or suggestions on this!